nursing AdrianThis pic started as an IG post then turned into a blog post because I had so much to say on the topic.

My original IG post:

#gymnurstics lol. Adrian was nursing on my lap then wanted to get down and stand while still nursing. That’s just one of the many positions he does. In bed he goes crazy. Such an acrobat lol. I’m so grateful to have learned so much more about breastfeeding since I had Gabriel. I wanted to BF him 6 months and went 4, Ariana 12 months and went 11, and Adrian 12 months which we accomplished. We’re still going strong and will continue indefinitely.

The blog post:

The journey wasn’t easy. I faced so many challenges in the beginning. The CONSTANT spitting/throwing up, going through burp cloths to the point where i had to buy like 20 of them because he was soaking them faster than we could do laundry, and almost always crying and relying on me 99% of the time for comfort. My nipples were KILLING me for the first month. I would dread every feeding and had to pump to give them a break. As soon as he latched on I would literally have toe-curling pain. I mistakenly thought it was normal because I thought they needed time to “toughen up”. I tried giving up dairy for about 6 weeks to see if he had an intolerance to it. That wasn’t easy considering how much I loved {and still love} things like pizza and ice cream lol. I tried a bunch of gas drops and gripe water. He later ended up dropping to the one of the lowest percentiles in weight.

This was all a lot to handle, especially with 2 other kids and a household that still needed my attention. I debated “giving up” and using formula and a couple of people would also suggest the same thing. I refused to try though. I didn’t see how something man-made could be any better for my baby than my own milk, and was determined to get to the bottom of the issue.

Disclaimer: before people start assuming the wrong thing, I want to point out that there’s nothing wrong with formula if that’s what you choose to give your baby. I’m all about doing what works best for you. I’ve used it with my older 2 and would’ve used it with him if that’s what I ultimately wanted to do, but it wasn’t.

I don’t know how the topic of lip and tongue ties suddenly started coming up in my FB feed in a couple of mom groups I was in, but I suspected from the moment he was born that he had one. I unfortunately initially didn’t listen to my intuition and dismissed it since my pediatrician didn’t seem to think he had it and I didn’t get to meet with the LC in the hospital. I had never heard about it before, so how could something like that be the issue?

As the months went on, I couldn’t stop thinking about it, and kept doing more research. Finally at 4 months, I told hubby I was going to schedule a home visit with an IBCLC. She confirmed that he had a LT/TT and we did a weighted feed to find out how much he was getting at feeds. Spoiler alert – after he threw up most of the milk I had just fed him, he barely had a couple of oz, which would explain him dropping to the lowest percentile in weight.

I ended up taking him to a recommended pediatric dentist and got him revised. The aftercare process was torture. I had to rub the inside of his upper lip and under his tongue so that the ties wouldn’t re-attach. I had to keep a smile on my face and a playful tone while he was crying. It supposedly didn’t hurt him, but the fact that I was all in his mouth.

After a couple of weeks, I was finally starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I was able to stop the exercises and he was throwing up less and less. It could have been purely coincidence, but I’d like to think that the revision made a difference. Thanks to the support of my FB mom groups, the IBCLC home visit, and my supportive pediatrician and hubby we pushed through.

If you’re a soon to be/new mom and are interested in BFing, I highly encourage you to seek out a support system. We all need a #mamatribe to get us through our rough days and point us in the right direction when we don’t know what to do. I’ve learned so much and try to share my knowledge when I can.

If you’re a partner, family member, or friend of a mom who really wants to BF, encourage her to seek support instead of pushing her to give formula because her milk isn’t “enough”. A mom should be able to make the best decision for her and her baby AND receive the support she needs instead of being criticized or forced to do something else.

If you have any questions or would like more information on anything I posted about, just let me know!